When you find yourself at the receiving end of caregiver criticism, it can be unpleasant. It seems everyone thinks they know what’s best, and accusations or emotional outbursts are often directed at you. Here are a few tips provided by the professionals at Palm Desert Home Care Assistance to help you handle caregiver criticism.
You’re with your loved one every hour of every day, so you understand the circumstances better than others. Have empathy for those not in the proverbial loop and view the situation from another’s perspective. When you try to see from another point of view, you may understand that feelings of confusion and helplessness may manifest as criticism instead of open, reasonable dialogue.
When our methods are questioned or criticized, we want to defend ourselves. Try to listen without bringing your emotions into the conversation. Keep in mind that others don’t see things from your vantage point because those people aren’t as familiar with the situation as you are. Take the critique lightly and don’t let it bother you.
Consider the Source
Is the criticism coming from a trusted, educated confidante or a closed-minded acquaintance that doesn’t know your loved one? When you’ve taken a moment to consider your source, you’ll know whether a conversation is merited or if a simple, ‘thanks for your input’ will do.
Being accountable for our choices is one of the most respectable things we can do. Take time to describe the reasoning behind your decisions. When the other person can see your methodology, his or her concerns may cease.
Let Others In
There are a number of things that non-caregivers cannot see. They aren’t with you and your loved one every day and haven’t had conversations with doctors, experts, or your family member. Shedding light on the little-known details of your circumstance may help others understand your methods and stifle unsolicited opinions.
While you may take great pride in caring for your loved one, remember that asking for help doesn’t mean you can’t handle it. If you need help meeting your loved one’s care needs, reach out to Home Care Assistance. We provide specialized stroke, Alzheimer’s, dementia, and Parkinson’s care, as well as live-in and part-time in-home care in Palm Desert. To learn more about our senior care services or request a free in-home consultation, please call (760) 345-0001 today.